Personally, I find it very helpful to write things down in order to get them done. Resolutions are no different; they’re simply year long to-do lists/goals. The goals I find to be the most helpful are ones that deal with personal growth. By developing a better character it will result, not only helping yourself, but others as well. I realize I am late in the grand scheme of people making resolutions, but I don’t think there is a bad time to start. Following my own belief of the importance of writing down goals, I have decided to dedicate this post to my resolutions. At the end of the year I am going to look back at this post and make a results post to see if I have seen changes in myself.
1. Do what I want to do, rather than what I feel obligated to do
In many situations I let other people make the final decision. I have the tendency to not make an executive decision, even if there is a choice I prefer. This happens more so with my friends than with my family, but nevertheless it’s a habit I want to break. This isn’t to say I am going to be demanding to do whatever, whenever I want – although it would be nice! Simply speaking, I want to work more on not worrying so much about what others will think and be firm on decisions when they need to be made. 2019 is looking like it is going to be a great year and I want to allow myself to make choices and do things that I want to do rather than follow the crowd.
2. Be okay with saying no
My family will be the first to say that I tend to say ‘no’ a lot. But when it comes to certain aspects I have such a hard time. An example is when my friends go out at school and want me to come, but the party scene isn’t my thing. Or if someone asks me to go somewhere with them or hang out when I really need some alone time. The types of ‘no’ I mean for this resolution isn’t a ‘no’ to be stubborn or miss opportunities. Rather, it is to put myself first if I really am not feeling up for something or if I know I do not want to do it.
3. But, also, say yes to more opportunities
Following right along from the last resolution, I want to say ‘yes’ to more experiences. I have gotten a little bit better in the past year, but I know myself well enough to know that I shy away from a lot of opportunities. This could be for many reasons such as not knowing what will happen, if I will be good enough, fear of embarrassing myself, etc. But this year I want to work on putting those worries on the back burner and try more things. I am obviously young, but experiences are going to start jumping out at me and I want to take them while I can.
4. Stop apologizing when I shouldn’t be sorry
I have realized in the last couple of months how often I apologize. For me, apologies serve to close out an argument. I will throw one in even if nobody should feel sorry just to have a conclusion. But what has happened the most in the last year is, I feel like I have messed up or upset someone, even if I haven’t, and I will continually say ‘sorry.’ This ties into the next resolution, but I feel so much guilt that I always feel as though I should be apologizing. To make myself happier, I am really going to work hard on only apologizing when I know that I have done something wrong.
5. Feel less guilt
Guilt is an emotion I have dealt with for a long time. I don’t want to get too into it, but I know that it is something I want/need to work on. If I mess up a tiny bit, or feel like I could have upset someone, the guilt sticks with me. People will tell me I am okay, but I still can’t shake it. I want to work hard this year on not feeling guilty so I can have a clear mind.
Now that all of these resolutions are written down and put into the world, I am so excited to start working on them. My resolutions list does not have concrete goals you can check off when complete. But, I personally feel like my goals will be the most beneficial to work on for me. I would love to hear what your resolutions are, so please comment them below! Also don’t forget to check in with me on my social media accounts and subscribe, on the sidebar, to get all the latest updates!